For anyone going through a divorce, I say embrace every moment of it. It’s a gift. It will make you stronger than you ever knew you were. It will teach you to love and defend yourself. To be your biggest advocate and ally. It will teach you to trust yourself.

When his lawyer is beating you up like a pit bull, you will find the words to tear her apart. You will gain a savviness that you did not know you had, and cut deals like the greatest lawyer. You will gain the toughness and rigor to keep pushing, and the WISDOM to know when to settle.

So many women stay within unhappy marriages because they fear divorce. I fear mediocrity. I fear walls. I fear prisons. I fear never being truly loved, or truly loving.

I believe in marriage. I believe in work! But I also believe in ME.

You are always PROTECTED. Have FAITH!

Throughout all my trials, I have never been without love. I was always blessed. From the tender stroke of my grandmother, the hugs from my nephew and little cousins, the endearing concerns of my parents, to the shelter of my brother, and the extreme gratefulness of the children I teach. By the GRACE of GOD, I never went without love.

Love is not always romantic and divorce is not failure. We all have different paths and journeys. Some of us need divorce to learn how to love ourselves and to see how much we are loved!